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It Didn’t Start With You – Mark Wolynn
Unconsciously, we relive our mother’s anxiety. We repeat our father’s disappointments. We replicate the failed relationships of our parents and grandparents. Just as we inherit our eye color and blood type, we also inherit the residue from traumatic events that have taken place in our family. Illness, depression, anxiety, unhappy relationships and financial challenges can all be forms of this unconscious inheritance. Mark Wolynn, director of The Family Constellation Institute in San Francisco, is a leading expert in the field of inherited family trauma. Here he discusses the latest advances in epigenetics and how traumatic experiences can be inherited from our parents and grandparents—as well as the newest research in neuroscience that supports healing, how to break the patterns we’ve unknowingly adopted that keep the cycle of suffering alive from generation to generation.
The Ancient Heart of Forgivenss – Jack Kornfield
Jack Kornfield renowned teacher and author shares his extraordinary insight and stories of forgiving from a Buddhist perspective. A beautiful “forgiveness” meditation is included at the end.
“Forgiveness is not sentimental or quick. It is a deep process of the heart. In the process you need to honour the betrayal, the hurt, the anger, the fear, and the grief, and it can take a long time. Forgiveness purifies and releases and permits us to love and be free. It is a tearing of the closedness of the heart. Our vulnerability in forgiveness becomes a place for staying alive and being open to love. Forgiveness is not for the other. It is for the beauty of your own soul and to fulfill your capacity for life. It says that I will not put another out of my heart.”
The Art Of Being Yourself – Caroline McHugh
I believe that we all come into this world complete. We come complete with one true note we were destined to sing.
Want to be happy? Be grateful. – David Steindl-Rast, Monk and Interfaith Scholar
The one thing all humans have in common is that each of us wants to be happy, says Brother David Steindl-Rast, a monk and interfaith scholar. Happiness, he suggests, is born from gratitude. An inspiring lesson in slowing down, looking where you’re going, and above all, being grateful.
Rethinking Infidelity – by relationship therapist Esther Perel
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected – an expression of longing and loss.ees
How To Practise Emotional Hygiene
We have medicine cabinets for common physical injuries like cuts and colds but no toolkits for common psychological injuries such as failure, rejection, guilt, and loss. In his inspirational talk, Guy Winch (Psychologist) tells us that “you can’t treat a psychological wound if you don’t know you’re injured”. Guy teaches us a lesson on why it is so important to practice emotional hygiene.
“By taking action when you are lonely. By changing your responses to failure. By protection your self-esteem. By battling negative thinking you won’t just heal your psychological wounds you will build emotional resilience and you will thrive.”
The Mind-Body Connection
Bruce Lipton, Stem Cell Biologist talks about the “Mind-Body Connection”. It’s the belief in our minds that are controlling our genes. Your body responds to the chemistry of your thoughts.
It’s the belief in our minds that are controlling our genes. Your body responds to the chemistry of your thoughts.
Honest Liars – The Psychology of Self-Deception by Cortney Warren (TED Talks)
How do we start to acknowledge the lies we tell ourselves, how do we start becoming more honest liars? Self-deception leads to massive amounts of pain and regret. We lie to ourselves because at the core we do not have enough psychological understanding to admit the truth and deal with the consequences that will follow. The first step to changing this is self-awareness we become observes of ourselves. When we admit who we really are we have the opportunity to change. As we become more honest and aware we also become more responsible for our choices. Not changing when confronted with the truth is a choice. Although we can’t control many circumstances in life we are responsible for our reactions to all of them. Be more honest. Choose to become more honest about the lies you tell yourself. Use the truth to live the most fulfilling life for you. Because you’ve only got one!
Martin Scorsese and Ray Dalio on the Benefits of a Daily Meditation Practice.
Martin Scorsese the great film maker and Ray Dalio Billionaire Hedge Fund Manager, talk about the benefits of daily meditation practice in their lives. Scorsese says “There is a peacefulness about it that I don’t think I have ever achieved before”. Ray Dalio, “brain imaging shows that your amygdala that causes the stress calms down and your pre-frontal cortex lights this brings you that equanimity? The benefits compound themselves over a period of time and it keeps getting better.”
Changing the Conversation on Addiction with Gabor Mate
The question we need to ask is ‘not why the addiction but why the pain?” Only in the presence of compassion will people love themselves enough to see the truth. (This is about an hour long but so well worth the watch. There are some real gems of wisdom at the end)
Healing Means Making Whole
Marion Woodman, Jungian analyst speaks about how “healing is allowing our psyche to work with us to bring wholeness to our being.”
When The Body Says No: Mind/Body Unity and the Stress-Disease Connection – Gabor Mate
“You were born pristine and authentic and in touch with yourself and then you learnt that in order to stay in touch with your environment you had to suppress that part of yourself. The suppression itself became associated with survival. Because something within you says that if I am authentic I won’t be loved anymore and if I am not loved I will not survive. Repression of the authentic self in the long term leads to disease, because you can’t separate the mind from the body, there are no separate systems they are all one of the super system.”
Why I Stopped Watching Porn – Ran Gavrieli (Ted Talks)
Ran Gavrieli lives in Tel Aviv and studies gender at Tel Aviv University. He works with youth and adults all over the country in sex and gender studies and in building positive self-image in a world inundated by sexual imagery with negative connotations.
Why Domestic Violence Victims Don’t Leave – Leslie Morgan Steiner (TED Talks)
Leslie Morgan Steiner was in “crazy love” — that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life. Steiner tells the dark story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the silence.
Prisoner of Your Mind – Sean Stephenson (TED talks)
You are enough. Deep down inside every human being just wants to be loved. They want to be able to look into the mirror and love themselves. If you have figured that out then you are going somewhere. You cannot feel sorry for yourself. When you feel sorry for yourself you will wither. Beating yourself up and bullying yourself is the most dangerous thing. The real prison is your mind. The mind that chatters, that won’t stop. True freedom is dropping down out of your mind and into your heart. It has infinite possibilities of choice in our behavior, life and attitude. Whether you are sleeping on a prison cot or in a mansion, when you love yourself and if you learn to master your emotions then and only then are you free.
The Benefits of Meditation on the Brain – Rupert Tanzi and Deepak Chopra on the ‘Super Brain’ ( I would highly recommend reading this book)
There have been over 2000 papers on the benefit of meditation on our biology and bio-chemistry. The metabolism rate goes down, the immune system is optimized, cortisol and adrenalin decrease, and there is a general sense of well-being. In the brain coherence increases that has beneficial effects, such as, the emotions are quelled, the brain goes into a quite space and everything becomes much clearer. This opens our channels of intuition (the next big part of the brain that is evolving) so we have clearer memory recall, we are in the now in a present and quite mind, and much more acute in terms of awareness. We are in fact rebooting our brain and allowing it brain to blossom.
Neuroplasticity – Changing Your Brain – Rupert Tanzi and Deepak Chopra on the “Super Brain”
If you could somehow adapt yourself in terms of how you use your brain instead of your brain use you? Could the potential for your brain activity and mental accomplishments be even greater? Most people think there brain is in charge of them and we totally differ we say we are in charge of our brain. The brain is an activity and is influenced by every experience. The brain is wired in a plastic way, it is adaptable and malleable. When you have a new experiencing you are changing the neural networks of your brain and chemistry.
Overcoming Hopelessness – Nick Vujicic (TED Talks)
Nick talks about the importance of parenting in early childhood and its significance in overcoming hopelessness. Willpower is a driving force for making our big dreams come true, but if we don’t get a miracle in life, we can always be a miracle to someone else.
Peter Breggin MD Talks About The Adverse Drug Effects and Effective Therapy for Depression
Dr. Peter Breggin, in an interview for “Changing Our Minds”, a documentary on good mental health (http://www.changingourmindsmovie.com for complete DVD), talks about effective counseling methods for depression and the truth about the adverse effects of SSRIs and anti-depressant medication.
Healing Trauma – Julie Yau
Julie Brown Yau’s diverse 28-year background in psychological, somatic, and spiritual traditions provides her with a unique depth of knowledge and direct experience in working with trauma.
The body is a window to the depth of one’s human life and carries forward all of one’s experience, from infancy through to adulthood. The notion of truth pursued is the cornerstone for this examination of the effects of infant neglect, which has been unwittingly promoted in our culture over the last 90 years. Early trauma is not always visible, coherent, or easily described. The consequences are vast, including structures of defense that are difficult to unearth, a compromised immune system, and a distressing state living in the psyche that may explode or implode at any time. However, trauma has been shown to be regenerative; through embodied healing one can reconnect to one’s authentic aliveness and wholeness, whereby a profound compassion emerges, which has the ability to hold the complexity of the human experience. The traumas one endures and resolves within the body/mind seem to be a crucial part of opening to deeper levels of compassion while dissolving psychological conditioning, and awakening the spiritual heart which has the capacity to know the Absolute in its entirety.